Is Al-Anon For Me?

Are You Troubled by Someone's Drinking?

Did You Grow Up With a Problem Drinker?

Alateen - Is It For You?

Are You Troubled by Someone's Drinking?

 

Millions of people are affected by the excessive drinking of someone close.
These 20 questions are designed to help you decide if you could benefit from Al-Anon.
1.
Do you worry about how much someone drinks?
2.
Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?
3.
Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking?
4.
Do you feel if the drinker loved you, he or she would stop drinking to please you?
5.
 Do you blame the drinker's behavior on his or her companions?
6.
Are plans frequently upset or canceled or meals delayed because of the drinker?
7.
 Do you make threats, such as, "If you don't stop drinking, I'll leave you"?
8.
Do you secretly try to smell the drinker's breath?
9.
Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
10.
Have you been hurt or embarrassed by a drinker's behavior?
11.
Are holidays and gatherings spoiled because of drinking?
12.
Have you considered calling the police for help in fear of abuse?
13.
Do you search for hidden alcohol?
14.
Do you often ride in a car with a driver who has been drinking?
15.
Have you refused social invitations out of fear or anxiety?
16.
Do you sometimes feel like a failure when you think of the lengths you have gone to control the drinker?
17.
 Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
18.
 Do you ever threaten to hurt yourself to scare the drinker?
19.
 Do you feel angry, confused or depressed most of the time?
20.
Do you feel there is no one who understands your problems?

 

Alcoholism is a family disease. If you answer yes to some of these questions you may want to check meeting information for meetings convenient for you.

Copyright Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. ©1980
Are You Troubled By Someone's Drinking (S-17)

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Did You Grow Up With a Problem Drinker?

 

1.
 Do you constantly seek approval and affirmation?
2.
 Do you fail to recognize your accomplishments?
3.
 Do you fear criticism?
4.
 Do you over extend yourself?
5.
 Have you had problems with your own compulsive behavior?
6.
 Do you have a need for perfection?
7.
 Are you uneasy when your life is going smoothly, continually anticipating problems?
8.
 Do you feel more alive in the midst of a crisis?
9.
 Do you still feel responsible for others, as you did for the problem drinker in your life?
10.
 Do you care for others easily, yet find it difficult to care for yourself?
11.
 Do you isolate yourself from other people?
12.
 Do you respond with fear to authority figures and angry people?
13.
 Do you feel that individuals and society in general are taking advantage of you?
14.
 Do you have trouble with intimate relationships?
15.
 Do you confuse pity with love, as you did with the problem drinker?
16.
 Do you attract and/or seek people who tend to be compulsive and abusive?
17.
 Do you cling to relationships because you are afraid of being alone?
18.
 Do you mistrust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?
19.
 Do you find it difficult to identify and express your emotions?
20.
 Do you think parental drinking may have affected you?


Alcoholism is a family disease. Those of us who have lived with this disease as children sometimes have problems which the Al-Anon program can help us to resolve. If you answer yes to some of these questions check the meeting information for a meeting convenient for you.

Copyright Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc. ©1985 -
Did You Grow Up With A Problem Drinker? (S-25) "Reprinted with permission of Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., Virginia Beach, VA."

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Alateen - Is It For You?

1.
 Do you have a parent, close friend, or relative whose drinking upsets you?
2.
 Do you cover up your real feelings by pretending you don't care?
3.
 Does it seem as though every holiday is spoiled because of drinking?
4.
 Do you tell lies to cover up for someone else's drinking or what's happening in your home?
5.
 Do you stay out of the house as much as possible because you hate it there?
6.
 Are you afraid to upset someone for fear it will set off a drinking bout?
7.
 Do you feel nobody really loves you or cares what happens to you?
8.
 Are you afraid or embarrassed to bring your friends home?
9.
 Do you think the drinker's behavior is caused by you, other members of your family, or rotten breaks in life?
10.
 Do you make threats such as "If you don't stop drinking, fighting, etc, I'll run away?"
11.
 Do you make such promises about behavior such as "I'll get better school marks, go to church or keep my room clean" in exchange for a promise that the drinking and fighting stop?
12.
 Do you feel that if your mom or dad loved you she or he would stop drinking?
13.
 Do you ever threaten or actually hurt yourself to scare your parents into saying, "I'm sorry," or "I love you"?
14.
 Do you believe no one could possibly understand how you feel?
15.
 Do you have money problems because of someone else's drinking?
16.
 Are meal times frequently delayed because of the drinker?
17.
 Have you considered calling the police because of drinking behavior?
18.
 Have you refused dates out of fear or anxiety?
19.
 Do you think that if the drinker stopped drinking, your other problems would be solved?
20.
 Do you ever treat people (teachers, schoolmates, teammates, etc) unjustly because you are angry at someone else for drinking too much?


Alcoholism is a family disease. If you answer yes to some of these questions Alateen may help.

Copyright © Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc.

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